STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE ! ☺

♥

Hey Zengarmy,

So, a few days ago I was talking to my mom about some random things :
" You know what ? I struggle every time I pay money at the canteen counter. "
Then, looking at me as if I'm a complete alien, my mom replied :
" WHY ? It's not as if you're NOT paying money or anything. "


I remembered I said :
" The cashier hates me when I paid larger notes,
( BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO FIND THE CHANGE )
& the people queuing up behind me hates me when I paid small notes,
( BECAUSE THEY'RE IN THE HURRY & I NEED TIME TO FIND THE SMALL NOTES )  "


Shockingly, my mom replied :
" Oh my god, will you stop being so skeptical about everyone around you ?
Chances are : THEY DON'T EVEN CARE ABOUT YOU, LET ALONE HATING YOU.
Stop putting up an invisible shield to stay away from people,
JUST SAY YES. "


Just say yes ?
YES, JUST SAY : " YES ! "

" Just say yes, just say there's nothing 
holding you back ! "

How often do you turn things down ? 

Or shy away from doing things a little out of your comfort zone ? 

How often do you say NO ? 

For me, this word would crop up an awful lot more than the word "yes".

As most of you may or may not be aware, 

I struggle with minor anxiety ( read more on that HERE ), 

so for me, sometimes saying no, I believe, is the only option. 

My mind takes control and makes me think that : 

I will be safe doing the things that are within my comfort zone,

things that don't scare me. 

But, what kind of a life is that ? 

Do I really want to be confined to doing things with baby steps, over and over ? 

Life is too short for that. 

Do I want to live my life turning things down, 

and missing out on so many opportunities, 

just because it scares me a bit ? 

No, and neither do you.

If you are reading this, and you suffer with anxiety disorder, 

have panic attacks, depression, have social anxiety, 

or are just a very negative or shy person, 

then I know full well, 

you want more than anything to be able to say yes to so many things, 

but the way your mind works, means you are terrified to do this. 

What is the worst that could happen though ? 

Will you drop down dead ? 

No, the chance of that happening are slim to none.

It's taken me so long to try and push all my negative thoughts, 

surrounding different activities that are linked with my anxiety, 

but I've just reached a point in my life where I think "SOD IT".

So what if I have anxiety attack ? What's going to happen to me ? 

I would rather do more things, that I can look back on and think "I'm so glad I did that", 
than thinking "I really wish I'd done that". 

I don't want to ever be left with that awful question, 

floating around in my head of "what if?". 

There may be times when you do panic, or you do get in a flap about something, 

but if you know that ultimately you're going to be okay, 

at least you can say you did it, or you tried it, 

and at least you won't be left thinking "what if?".

♥

I've had so many anxiety attacks I can't even keep count, 

but do I remember all of these and relive these anxiety every day of my life? 

No I don't. What would be the point? 

Anxiety is really rubbish, panic attacks are really rubbish, 

but you can't let these things take complete control of your life, 

or you will be consumed by nothing else, and it will make you desperately unhappy. 

You are more likely to remember all the amazing times, 

than you are to remember times where you felt anxious. 

Why miss out on any opportunity to make happy memories, 

that you'll keep with you forever because of this?

One thing I find very difficult about living with anxiety, 

is the hold it takes over you without you even realizing. 

You get used to it, and you get used to the way of living, 

and you don't see how your behaviors are so varied from the norm. 

I am very envy of people that ooze confidence. 

I sometimes think "If only I never had to worry about anything", 

but then do I really have anything to worry about anyway? 

Are the things I worry about really significant in the grand scheme of things? 

The answer is no, probably not.

I hold back on so many things, 

that I feel like I can never 100% enjoy myself in any situation. 

There are very rarely times in my life, 

where anxious thoughts are not floating around in my head, 

ruining a situation for me. 

Sometimes I'll even be in my bed and they'll be there. 

I feel like my anxiety is a little demon living inside my head 

(I know, I'm getting slightly freaky on yo asses, but you know what I mean), 

and the only way to ever destroy it is to be like : 

"LOOK, SEE, I'M FINE, I CAN DO THIS, NOW GO AWAY", 

and eventually he will get bored, and leave 

(I'd just like to make it clear at this point that I am not possessed, 

all clear on that? Yes? good).

More recently, I've had a bit of a wake-up call. 

I felt myself becoming too consumed by certain aspects of my life, 

certain people, situations and mostly, my anxiety. 

I stopped talking to people as much, 

I stopped meeting my friends as much, 

I stopped eating out in restaurants as much, 

I stopped anticipating going back home, just to avoid travelling in bus. 

I let my anxious mind take complete control. 

Some days, I just spent on my own, speaking to nobody and doing nothing, 

because I felt safe that way. 

Nobody should be living their life like this, 

and sometimes it takes a small (or large) slap in the face, 

for you to realize which path you were heading down. Consider this yours.

Over the past few weeks, I feel as though I have turned over a new leaf. 

I want to be more positive about things. 

Being anxious means you are more likely to find the negatives 

in any situation before the positives, and this becomes so draining. 

Not just for you, but for others around you.

I have started to say YES to things I'd never normally say yes to. 

I'm not saying yes to absolutely everything, 

but I'm making a conscious effort to agree to more things. 

♥

I feel so much better for saying yes to things. 

It has improved my confidence drastically, 

and it's made me want to go out, 

and do more things that I'd normally never think/want to do. 

It's making me feel a lot more positive, and with positivity, comes happiness.

I guess the point I'm trying to make with this blog post, 

is to urge you guys : please think about this for a second, 

try and step away from your anxious/negative mindset, and look at the bigger picture...

You get ONE life (unless of course you are a cat), 

one chance to do anything and everything you want. 

Do not let something like this control your decisions or ruin experiences for you. 

The same goes for people. 

Don't let people ruin things for you, or control your behaviors or your life choices.

It's YOUR life. 

Share it with others but don't let anyone, 

or anything take over the control you have.

Say YES. 

Make it your mission, to do things you'd never normally do, 

go places you'd never normally go, 

meet people you'd never normally meet. 

How can you make memories, and take new paths in life if you turn everything down?

Taking the quote in the song in THIS blog post "Do one thing everyday that scares you". 

I probably wouldn't take this too literally if you have severe anxiety, 

but apply it to making decisions every once in a while to begin with. 

So what if it scares you? 

Think about how you'll feel when you accomplish it, 

think about the opportunities it could bring you. 

Think how happy it could make you!

Now, after reading this blog post, there are a few things I want you to do :

♥ Say YES to something you wouldn't normally say yes to, 

and let me know in the comments what it was.

♥ Put your favorite song on and dance around to it.

(not for any reason other than I'm sure that,

it will make you feel at least 10x better than you did before reading this)

♥ Remember that you are not the only one feeling this way, 

and that only you can change the outlook you have on life.

♥