Hey Zengarmy,

This is how I am currently feeling. Just bleurgh. 
Monday is just so depressing. 
It's always the worst time of the week for me. 
No real reason, I just hate the weather, the lack of money etc etc.

Sometimes, when life get's a little complicated, 
it's very easy to lose sight of all the good things 
and you become solely focused on the negative.

There are days when you just wanna write something up,
simply because life gets a little bit too much.
The pressure, the competition, the rat race, whatever.

Everyone is on a journey at any given moment in their lives. 
Some are small missions like searching for chocolate when you crave it, 
& others are BIGGER, character changing journeys that take a lot longer to make, 
for instance, trying to win someone’s heart or mourning a loved one. 

Some journeys begin simple and get complicated and squiffy on route, 
and others remain simple or squiffy the entire time. 
There are a million different paths to take, 
and millions of people on different journeys on the same time.

However, all journeys have one thing in common; 
they are only known best by the people walking on them.

Our paths intertwine with others but they NEVER merge. 
No matter how close two people are, they will always experience the same situations differently 
and therefore their paths can become parallel but never the same exact path. 

No two people live identical lives. 
So, we can sympathise and empathise with people around us, 
whose journeys we have some idea of. 

But sometimes, 
we watch strangers from afar that make choices we don’t agree with, 
and we judge them harshly and based…on what ? 

We like to judge superficial things, like other people's outfits and hairstyles, 
or deeper things like who dated/married who or who cheated and why ?
We do this on celebrities and friends and people we see walking down the street, 
and we often judge without any information other than what we see with our eyes. 
We don’t know any of the reasons, motives or emotions behind their decisions, 
and we don’t know what journey they’ve been on to get to that point, 
and yet we decide we do/don’t like the person that was being said, 
based on the tip of the iceberg and think we are entirely right to do so. 

Flip it for a minute. 
Let's just assume that you are in this situation,
where you choose to wear a jumper that a relative, who has now passed on,
gave you because it reminds you of him/her.
It’s not the fanciest jumper. 
The colour isn’t flattering, it’s too big for you, 
and it’s ripped around the edges but none of that matters because it was his/hers. 

Someone at school, will definitely make fun of you for it.
They don’t know that you’re aware it’s not a fashion statement, 
nor do they know you’re not wearing it for that reason.
 They don’t know the journey you’re on or how far along that path you are, 
and they’re judging you on what they can see, not how you feel. 
Doesn’t seem fair, does it? 

The two things to think about are: 

1. What you think when you see other people. What is it you’re judging? 
How much information do you really have and is it fair of you?

And 2. If someone’s judging you on what they see without knowing your reasons or feelings, 
depending on how close to you they are, you can either explain politely your reasons for doing so, 
OR leave them to their pointless, false judgements. 
They don’t matter!

Just some random thoughts for this drizzly Monday evening! 

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